This thing is very taboo and I might get a lot of hate mail after this, but I’m not here to make friends. This is a story about someone I knew from years ago.
Good guy! But for the sake of the story and to protect his privacy, I will change his name to John (no one likes to be called by their wife… let alone in public).
People don’t talk about it, but it’s a very real problem… just like women over 40 who are secretly jealous of much younger women when they’re near their husbands.
When a man earns less money than his wife, it’s not a “big deal” at first while the honeymoon lasts, but over time, if it’s not intended or done consciously, the man will quietly lose respect not quickly from his wife. His tone will change slightly, until he loses respect for his husband.
John would come home from work and his wife would give him a hard time about something as trivial as a knife not in its place. A sweater not folded properly in its drawer…
Yet it was love at first sight… the perfect woman for him.
He was a very good dad who loved spending time with his kids, doing activities with them, etc.
I’m not saying that this happens to everyone.
I’m not saying it happens to all women, because every rule has its exception of course, but it comes from our ability to survive and to put the mechanisms in place to do so.
The dangers aren’t the same as they used to be when a Mammoth could eat you alive, but even in today’s society, there are dangers. We’re talking about financial risk, quality of life, adequate housing, and when the man doesn’t provide the security expected, the woman quietly loses her respect for him.
She’ll start going out on “girls’ nights”.
Train more seriously.
To eat much better to “be healthier”.
Yep..
For John, he never thought the worst. Never for a second. It was the blind side.
But we all know how that ends.
She’d met a healthier man, a lot of money in his pocket, with his companies, a big lifestyle.
That’s not to say she didn’t love John, of course, but it’s clearly an animal instinct, natural for her survival. She’ll take whatever action is necessary to survive.
The damage is done even if she earns only $2,000 or $3,000 more than you.
But what could John have done to save himself from this situation and keep his relationship with his wife?
Well, several things I suppose, as I’m no relationship expert, but one thing that could have done is build an online business in the evening when you get home from work (if you have a 9 to 5 job of course). Something that has the potential to surpass his current income and have a large enough income to keep his wife’s respect. There’s nothing wrong with wanting more in life.
This way, he keeps his job, doesn’t jeopardize his ability to feed himself and his children, but he can build his exit door in the evening after work when his wife is “off training”.
When you earn more, you can feel it, you can see it in your attitude, in your confidence, in addition to the time you have available to train and keep fit. Women love that. It attracts naturally women even if you are older.
As for John, I’ve lost sight of him, but if ever you want to have more too and make a bigger impact, click on this link to subscribe to my email list:
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Yann Brainy
